Open Relationships

Counseling for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy

Working with clients in open relationships is my specialty and my passion. I’ve been in ethically non-monogamous communities for decades, have worked with many such clients, and deeply understand the complex themes that can arise in ethical non-monogamy.

I care deeply about helping you find a relationship structure that’s right for you, whether polyamorous, monogamous, or something else altogether.

Having open relationships can be challenging in a world which perpetuates many misconceptions and assumptions about them. It can feel overwhelming both for people questioning or starting along this path, as well as for people with years of lived experience in a society that doesn’t accommodate or understand their relationships. I am well versed in all these challenges, and would be happy to support you on your journey.

I offer:

  • Individual, couple, and family therapy

  • Consultation with other psychotherapists, professionals, and trainees.
    Reach out to join our consultation group!

  • Trainings for therapists on working with clients in open relationships

  • Meetings with classes to provide an introduction to ethical non-monogamy

Resources from Deanna

I enjoy presenting and publishing on open relationships as well as counseling. Please reach out if you’re interested in having me meet with your group or organization.

Publications:

Author, Open Relationships: A Culturally and Clinically Sensitive Approach.

2011 American Family Therapy Academy Monograph series, republished in 2014 AFTA Monograph Series Highlights.

Podcasts and Presentations:

  • Episode 622: Unwrapping all the colors of the relationship rainbow

    Not sure monogamy is for you, but an open relationship scares you, but you do know something isn’t working, and you know you just can’t love only one person and make it work. Rather than assume it is all about sex, we’re here today to have an open dialogue about all the ways to love and be in relationships. Deanna Fierman of All The Colors Counseling helps us see all the colors of the relationship rainbow in a healthy way.

  • Understanding Non-Monogamy with Deanna Fierman

    This week we are talking about all things non-monogamy with Deanna Fierman, a mental health therapist at All the Colors Counseling. The conversations ranges from the ways Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith revealed their relationship status (hint-they didn't do so in a super chill Facebook update), to Deanna's experience specializing in polyamorous relationships. Dr. Adrienne learns a lot about the ways people are counseled when they express an interest in having a non-monogamous relations and they discuss misconceptions related to polyamory, how counseling works for individuals or couples interested in such relationships, and societal views and acceptance of the same.

  • Episode 125: So You’ve Stereotyped Your Client

    Stereotypes aren’t always a bad thing. That may not be true in therapy, especially when a client is made to feel like they are representing an entire group of people. That’s what we explore with today’s guest Jess, and we’re also joined by Deanna Fierman, LPC, to talk about what therapists should do after their biases about identity lead to clinical errors.

  • Ignite Boulder 27: Consensual Non-monogamy

    (Please note that Ignite uses a format where the slides automatically advance every 15 seconds!)

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