Open relationships

Polyamory

Ethical Non-Monogamy

Working with clients in open relationships and polyamorous clients is my specialty and my passion.  I’ve been in ethically non-monogamous communities for decades, have worked with many such clients, and speak from personal experience when I say that I understand the complex themes that can arise in ethical non-monogamy.

I care deeply about helping my clients find a relationship structure that feels right for them, whether that is polyamorous, monogamous, or something else altogether.   Having open relationships can be challenging in the world we live in, which perpetuates many misconceptions and assumptions about these dynamics.  It can feel overwhelming both for people questioning or starting along this path, as well as for people with years of lived experience who are dealing with a society that doesn’t accommodate or understand their relationships.  I am well versed in all these challenges, and would be happy to support you on your journey.


In addition to counseling, I enjoy presenting and publishing on this topic.  Please reach out if you’d like to talk further, or if you’re interested in having me meet with your group or organization.

I offer:

  • Individual, couple, and family therapy

  • Trainings for therapists on working with clients in open relationships

  • Consultation with other psychotherapists, professionals, and trainees

  • Meetings with university classes

Resources from Deanna:

General resources:

An excellent, complex map of non-monogamy

Recommended books for further reading:

Podcast Multiamory

The RADAR approach for relationship check-ins

Colorado-specific resources:

Boulder Polyamory Meetup Group (both in person and virtual options)

Denver Nontraditional Relationships Meetup

Mostly Harmless NOCO Consensual NonMonogamy Social Group

Loving More Nonprofit Polyamory Meetup Group

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